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{January 4, 2007}   So what are your thoughts on Yaoi?

In this morning’s Argus Lite I had the pleasure of reading one of the most preposterously hilarious letters to the editors ever penned. The jist was “I saw some signs about lad’s mags and strip clubs being sexist but feminists would never have a go at homosexuals or lesbians enjoying porn so they’re politically correct hypocrites.”

After picking myself off the floor and wiping the tears of laughter from my eyes I started thinking.

The focus here is all wrong. It’s saying that men have a right and need to express their heterosexuality by enjoying the humiliation and vulnerability of women as if they’re was no other way to get aroused.

One person’s rights stop where another’s starts.

Men’s right to jack off does not overrule a woman’s right to respect and personhood.

Study after study has shown the detrimental effects of prostitution and stripping on women.

Studies even show that women in the sex industry suffer the same condition as shell shocked war veterans– Post Traumatic Stress Syndrome amongst others.

http://powerhouse-ministry.org/annielobert_prostitution.aspx

Lad’s mags do not respect women as people. Strip clubs are in the business of selling women’s body and looks for a man’s pleasure. Need I remind everyone that world slavery is more prevalent today then it was when it was legal? A large part of this is sexual slavery and traficking. The industry that promotes this serial rape and genocide is not one that anyone has a “right” to enjoy.

And what the hell does all that have to do with political correctness?

What it has to do with sexuality is interesting though. The key issue is consent or more precisely full autonomy of body and mind and soul.

If a woman or man is raped for the purpose of kicks it does not matter what the sexuality of the person watching the footage is. What matters was that the person was abused.

But lets talk about sexuality and porn for a second.

Another thing is that people in the GBLT community do not seem all taken by the porn out there anyway. It is incredibly heterocentrist that they would prefer the straight misogynist man’s version of sex. There is more than one expression of sexuality and I am not advocating an end to that. What feminists advocate are healthy ways that show both (or more!) members of the relationship as equals with equal enjoyment and equal drive.

Funnily enough that’s the definition of erotica that I found in one dictionary.

Yaoi (homosexual erotica) and yuri (lesbian erotica) are somewhat different. For one thing they tend to be written or drawn- the only people involved are the creator’s and viewers. And whilst those mediums are definitely not free from their problems (I’ve just started reading Lolita which I’m not sure what to label– it’s certainly a dangerous and terrifying but compelling book. Never mind the badly written smut out there that relies on gender clichés and transforms one character into the “female” subservient of the pair) there has been a lot more common decency involved than anything I have ever seen in any lad’s mags or heard of in any strip clubs.

Again, I don’t give a fig what people do in their bedrooms and what turns them on. What I do care about, as a feminist is the mental and physical well being of those around me.

Objectification is not healthy on any front – what the hell does sexuality have to do with that?

Why the hell would I advocate such a confused (and frankly ridiculous and irrelevant) stance because of the notion that there is only one kind of sexual pleasure, which is above reproach?

I’m astonished they even published such drivelling apologist ill thought out and researched crap.

For once this issue should be about the women’s rights not the men’s penises.

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What’s Argus Lite?
As a feminist I don’t like porn, whether it’s for straight men, women lesbians, gay men, bi’s, queer or anything in between! And to be honest, there is a lot of discontent in the feminist community between those who are anti-porn and those who enjoy lesbian porn/porn made for women. So I think that commentator is talking rubbish!

From the little gay men’s porn I’ve seen, I’ve found it disturbing- still treating the object- in this case men, as holes, and a common theme seems to be man dominating the younger, vulnerable boy.

As for lesbian porn, I’ve seen some S&M images which I found disturbing. But I have seen lesbian sexual imagery that I don’t find offensive- but then that isn’t porn.

The thing is, shouldn’t we be asking why does porn exist at all? Why do people feel the need to commodify a person for their arousal..?



tcupnewt says:

The Argus Lite is a free paper like the Metro.

I have to agree with your assesement. Marketing human feelings, bodies and emotions (because that’s what I’ve been lead to believe sex is about anyway) is not kosher.

I guess the question many feminists struggle with is wether it’s possible to have something smutty that doesn’t objectify but celebrates sexual relationships between people.

I am not familiar with GLBT visual porn but what I do know about (bless my geeky heart) is the world of writen erotica. The same problem that you pointed out of the dom and sub is there but I have seen writers genually interested in character development and growth along with the sex, which is seen as just another aspect of the character.

I guess my interest is “what is porn”? From what I’ve seen and researched it is defined by the power relationship. So yes, why do people need the sick power kick to get off?

I frankly don’t know.



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